Why High-Performance Shouldn’t Cost You Your Marriage
Our marriage doesn’t run on autopilot - which is not bad for almost 32 years of marriage!
It runs on joy, shared experiences, the freedom to explore our own passions - and the insight to ask for help when we need it.
With Valentine’s Day recently, I’ve been reflecting on what keeps love alive - not only in the good times, but through all realities of life.
What a High-Performance Marriage Really Requires
Christian and I have always tried to be intentional about how we show up for each other. Because we believe our love is sacred and our relationship deserves care.
We make time for the things that fill our lives with happiness: Broadway shows, Friday date night dinners, and 25-50 miles tandem bike rides.
We also make room for what lights us up individually. He has guys nights with his friends to play Dungeons and Dragons or watch movies. I have my evenings with girlfriends and retreats for personal and professional growth.
Our love is something we’ve crafted - over almost 32 years - with intention, curiosity, and so many honest conversations.
We also know this: Even with all that love, trust and wisdom, sometimes we still need support.
Why Even Strong Marriages Need Support
Christian and I have walked many seasons of life that could have easily pulled us apart. The death of our second son, my RA diagnosis, Christian’s cancer battle 3 years ago. One of the best choices we made in those moments was to ask for help.
We still occasionally work with a couples coach and sometimes a marriage counselor. Not because we’re in crisis, but because we’re committed to staying deeply connected and nurturing our love, especially when life gets heavy.
It’s how we keep our passion alive, trust nurtured and each other as a priority.
Because asking for help is commitment in action.
Where The Horizon Meets You
Your relationship doesn’t live in a vacuum.
It’s woven into the way you lead.
The way you make decisions.
The way you show up for your work, your team, your future.
When things are aligned at home, everything else expands.
When they’re not, it costs more than you realize.
When I work with leaders, I coach the whole individual.
Which means we go there - into your leadership, your relationships, your vision, your vitality.
You lead at a high level. You and your relationship should thrive there too.
If you’re feeling the tension between your ambition and your connection - or craving more alignment at home and at work - I invite you to schedule an Anti-Gravity Call.
Because your relationship deserves the same level of care and intention you give to everything else that matters.